Blog Post #1
It does not matter who a child lives with. I think that having two parents in your life that love and care for you is really important. People think that if you don't live with your child you can't love and care for them. The child also may think that if they are young. This is not true. Regardless of whether you live with your child or not you can and should love them for who they are. You can show this love in many ways. First off just by calling them and asking about them shows your love. Going to their sporting events or other things can show them that you love them as well.
A family with joint custody can be especially difficult on a young child. It does not mean one parent must love the child more than the other. It also does not mean it shouldn't be a possibility. It often has many flaws which make it worse but again I don't think it should be ruled out of any divorce. Joint custody is a good way for the child to be able to visit with both parents.
When determining who the child should live with I believe it is really important to listen to what the child has to say. Obviously when the child is five or six they cannot make decisions for themselves but when they get older they should have a strong say in the decision. I think that by the time a child is 15 or 16 years old they should be able to at least have a say in what they want to do.
In the end, it does not matter who a child lives with. As long as that parent loves and cares for them as best they can. Joint custody is ideal but difficult. Essentially the best thing is to keep it simple. A set routine the child can get used to. It is important both parents show that they love and support the child. As they age they should get a say. That is one thing I didn't like about my parents divorce. What I wanted to do didn't matter to anyone.
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